Dating someone who is a quadrepelegic
I worry that I could have done something differently, that maybe I was too forward, and that it was all my fault.The truth is, disability notwithstanding, sometimes two people just don’t click – but that doesn’t mean that I won’t constantly consider whether my disability did me in. Just as you are sitting there with me, sweating bullets and vacillating between being really excited to date such a cute dude, while also understanding and discovering the practicalities of the palsy, I am having an equally interesting time.It can however, be as thrilling and adventurous as you want it to be, with a little tinkering (oh er!) and finding out what works best for you and your partner…My reaction tends to be a laugh, followed by a concise answer, whereas my husband’s first reaction leans more toward aggravation.
Hopefully by the end, you will realise you’re not alone in this! This is by far the most common question posed to me or my husband.
In my head, I am trying to tell myself that my disability is OK, and that it is one of my best features, not to be overlooked or understated.
At the same time, I am doing my best to keep my disability at bay and not let it interfere with all my awesomeness.
Also, the only snack that I want you to find in my lap shouldn’t be the crumbs from my lunch earlier that day. This has been a big one for me every time I have dated. I am terrified that there is no real spark and that you resigned yourself to being polite and proper before we even sat down, not really giving this date a chance to develop. The practice of a “date” is to woo the other party into liking you enough that they’ll want to engage in some kind of interaction with you on the regular. Is it sexy that because I am wearing a leg bag to pee in, I can only wear baggy pants?
I am trying really hard to disarm you with my deliciousness, fearing that you will be deterred by my disability alone. As we all know, before we go to these things, we get all dolled up and try to feel our sexiest. I often also wonder if it’s even possible to find me sexy as a Pw D, if you’ve never had the chance to see disability as a sexual opportunity before.