Dating soon after loss of wife
"What you lack in firmness you more than make up in humor, compassion and experience.Plus, you know your body better than you ever did in your 20s." All those years living in your skin has taught you what turns you on that you just didn't know two decades ago.So if you have little or no desire for any kind of sex—even with George Clooney in your fantasies—see your doctor to be sure you don't have a medical condition, such as thyroid issues or certain cancers, says Dr. Beyond that, libido has a lot to do with how easily you can talk to your partner, and how bothered either of you is by how often you have sex.For one couple, once a month feels fine, whereas for others three times a week is practically nothing.But it's more likely that "I'm too tired" is an excuse to avoid sex.Being chronically out of energy can trigger a sex drive dip, so ask your doctor to check your thyroid levels and test you for anemia, says Mc Grath.
You might be bored or in a rut (and so might your man), so address it as soon as possible, advises Dr. Myth 8: If I've never had great orgasms, it's too late now. Sebastian, who admits, "I was never multi-orgasmic until after I had my second child." She attributes the change to a newfound sense of self-confidence, an ability to start askingfor what she wanted in bed.
Heart pumping, deep breathing—it's all good for you," says Carmella Sebastian, MD, a women's wellness and sexuality expert."You can have inner confidence at any weight," says Mc Grath.
That said, if you're not feeling your best, go for a brisk, 30-minute walk with your partner rather than have another helping of pasta at dinner.
Myth 5: You don't have to worry about birth control.
Truth: Tell that to the legion of late-life moms toting their beloved "oops" babies!