Quotes on dating the wrong person
Otherwise intelligent people daily and blithely make the move.
Given that it is about the single costliest mistake any of us can make (it places rather large burdens on the state, employers and the next generation too), there would seem to be few issues more important than that of marrying intelligently.
A standard question on any early dinner date should be quite simply: ‘And how are you mad?
’The problem is that knowledge of our own neuroses is not at all easy to come by.
This problem is compounded because other people are stuck at the same low level of self-knowledge as we are.
However well-meaning they might be, they too are in no position to grasp, let alone inform us, of what is wrong with them. We go and visit their families, perhaps the place they first went to school. All this contributes to a sense we’ve done our homework.
We can say straight off that they occur with appalling ease and regularity.
But this is about as wise as thinking that a photograph of the outside of a power station can tell us everything we need to know about nuclear fission.We need to know the intimate functioning of the psyche of the person we’re planning to marry.We need to know their attitudes to, or stance on, authority, humiliation, introspection, sexual intimacy, projection, money, children, aging, fidelity and a hundred things besides.A good partnership is not so much one between two healthy people (there aren’t many of these on the planet), it’s one between two demented people who have had the skill or luck to find a non-threatening conscious accommodation between their relative insanities.The very idea that we might not be too difficult as people should set off alarm bells in any prospective partner.