Blind dating poster
You will see every interaction in the worst possible light: “she doesn’t like me, she’s clearly repulsed by me, she’s only being polite, I’m misreading the signals” This apparently unending stream of reinforcement will only serves to perpetuate a vicious cycle; your self-limiting beliefs cause you to overlook evidence to the contrary, thus reinforcing the belief which, in turn, continues to make it impossible to see the truth. Believing in yourself – that you’re attractive, that you have a lot to offer others, that you can you.
And THAT’s the big blind spot for many intelligent, successful women. The woman who doesn’t give him a hard time about hanging out with his friends. The woman who is up for anything on the weekends and everything in bed. I can’t say whether you care about being a better girlfriend, but now you’ve got no excuse. It’s not a contradiction – no more than it’s a contradiction for a busy entrepreneur to be emotionally available or a charismatic alpha male to be a good listener.
You assume that because you value certain traits in men; men value the same thing in women. It’s not that intelligence, money, and leadership are unimportant to men; it’s that they place a distant second compared to the most important trait: How you make him FEEL. It’s not your list of credentials that impress men – it’s how they feel about themselves when they’re with you. The woman whose default setting is happy, not stressed/angry/anxious. However, you might notice that men who are consumed with their careers are not always available, and men who are charismatic often like to hear themselves talk.
So if your greatest strengths are your intellectual curiosity, your tenacity at work, and your ability to analyze and debate your stance on every issue under the sun, you’d definitely be the person he wants to HIRE. Simply put: if he feels GOOD about hanging around with you, he’s going to want to hang around with you forever. I can’t make a guy into a better listener; but I can share subtle ways in which you can make men feel better when they’re around you.
Do you remember what it’s like to be in an exciting new relationship? He talks about making vacation plans in the future. But if you’re anything like me, you’re constantly seeking the truth.
You’ve got this electric chemistry and everything’s going swimmingly. In only a few weeks together, you feel like this was meant to be…and your mind goes wild with the possibilities. The problem is that – in relationships with flawed humans and flawed communication – the truth is often really hard to find.